Apr 232012

Welcome to Manic Mommy Monday! Every week we link up posts that are updates about us and what is going on in our lives. Everyone is welcome to link up (scroll down to find the linky) and you can find more information on the main Manic Mommy Monday page.

Ahhh, Spring! After thinking that winter skipped Florida completely and we just had a limbo season of slightly less hot before summer took hold about 3 weeks ago, today is refreshing to say the least.

I’ve got all the doors propped open and enjoying the wind tunnel they create. I’d open the windows too, but we live on the second floor and I know both boys would be trying to lean out…not worth the worry. The stuffy nose is. I’m not sure what it is about filling my house with pollen that the outside air brings, but the house feels cleaner…could also be that we spent the morning picking up and my hubby did the sink-full of dishes, but I credit the fresh air coursing through the apartment.

Look by the big black rock

We also have babies! I posted a few weeks ago about our mama fish issues, and my hope that our not-quite-balanced-balance would keep them de-stressed enough to actually drop the fry. (Yup, that’s me sounding technical.) I have no idea which mama they belong to since none of them look any thinner, but oh well, maybe in a couple days they’ll lose the belly before they turn up pregnant again. Another fishy fun fact, females will store milt (sperm) from the males and can use it up to 8 months later to fertilize eggs.

It’s harder to find the babies today than it was yesterday, so either they’ve gotten better at hiding or some of them have been eaten. I’m not really sure which I prefer. Of course I’m feeding the big fish extra and trying to give the little ones a shot at life, but if they survive it means I’m going to have to either give them away (work) or throw them in the pond where they’d be food for bigger fish. Neither option particularly appeals to me, but I guess that what I get for being irresponsible about what type of fish I bring home.

Since the Great Cloth Diaper Change is over (and was a great success, more on that tomorrow) Jaron is officially out of diapers. We may still use them at night for awhile as insurance and to give us more training pants to have ready during the day, but 90% of the time he stays dry through the night and for the past few days has had 0-1 accident per day. He still takes a lot of reminding, but he also asks/tells us when he needs to go some of the time.

Aedyn has been handing out some prize winning attitude this week. We’re trying to curb that. Most of it is talking back when we tell him to do something, or rationalizing whey he shouldn’t do it. Throw in a good dose of ignoring anything said to him that he doesn’t like with a side of outright defiance and you have a good idea of what our house has been like. He also frequently tells me that he loves me and I’m his best friend…I’ll be glad when that side of him is back in control of his body more often!

Jake worked 60 hours in restaurant this week, plus several hours from home. Frustrating and tiring on all of us, but he’s really trying to get ahead so he can take some vacation time next month. So we’re digging our heels in and trying to make the best of it.

I’m making some slow but steady progress on the project I’ve been working on and am working out a few of the kinks. Jake and I are also going to try and sit down and figure out exactly what we can finance out of pocket, how much I can do without money, and ways to pick up some financing. Fun fun fun!

That’s about it for this week! I have two little boys to get to bed, so check out some other Manic Mommy Posts and link up your own!

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Mar 132012

A few weeks ago I wrote a post about how Jaron was showing signs of being ready to potty train.

“You said use the potty…you didn’t say ‘how’ to use it…”

The whole potty training vs. potty learning thing has kind of escaped me. Until I got pregnant with Aedyn everything I’d ever heard about potty training was very directive and had a high success rate in a short amount of time. It was expected that potty training occurred by age 2, or a little after for slow learners.

Even though I understand more about potty learning and am sure that it does work for some families. I’m still in the potty training camp. Training worked well with Aedyn, even though it took longer than I thought it would with him being as strong-willed as he is. I’m glad we did things the way we did and have no regrets (except that I should have taken Star Wars away sooner). The tell all story on his training can be found here.

Jaron was showing a lot of signs of being ready to move out of diapers. He was staying dry through naps and overnight and the biggest one, he went to the potty by himself and used it properly. I moved him into underwear to see what would happen and started timing. The first day he had no wet accidents at all. The second day, just a couple.

Then he got sick.

He stopped staying dry through naps or overnight. He lost all interest in anything that required him to leave my lap. I was a little disappointed (after all, who doesn’t want one of those mythical 15 month-olds who is completely trained in 3 days?) but I knew that it was a long shot at 15 or 16 months anyway.

We’ve left the potty chair out and he’s sat on it occasionally since then, but hasn’t put anything in it. He accompanies Aedyn when Aedyn has to go. Nothing else until today.

But this morning I caught him in the bathroom. For once he wasn’t trying to climb on top of the toilet. He was struggling to lift the lid (Why he couldn’t use the potty chair, I don’t know; maybe because in his mind it serves another purpose now.) I asked him what he was doing and he answered “Poop! I poop!”

I helped him get the lid up and the kids seat down and get his diaper off. He sat there for about half a second. Then he passed gas, and I wish I’d had a camera. The had the most adorable look of pride and accomplishment. Nothing came of that, but he did go pee-pee in the potty.

I got excited and we clapped and he got a couple m&ms and we ran to wake Papa up to tell him. That was it.

It’s got me thinking though. Maybe I have a potty learner on my hands. I was planning on training him in a couple months, but if this continues he might just learn from his brother without any formal training. We’ll see, he’s still young and I don’t want to rush him, but I do want to strike while the iron’s hot. The next few months will be interesting!

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Feb 092012

Well, Jaron has decided he’s done with diapers.

It’s been a battle at every changing for a few weeks, but that’s pretty typical of this age. But yesterday during the middle of it, I told him that he had to wear a diaper until he could use the potty.

His response? “Potty!” and he took off running for the bathroom. Have I mentioned lately that he’s only 15 months old?

But he’s also woken up dry every morning (usually about 11 hour nights) for the past week. Sooo, after talking, Jake and I have decided to go with it and see what happens. He wore regular underwear today and didn’t have a wet accident at all while we were home. I took him potty every half hour to an hour.

I tried to be excited and make a big deal about how cool it was. He looked at me and smiled condescendingly. Yup.

So the big question in our house today: what do I cover his bottom with? I’m definitely not comfortable letting him leave the house in underwear, but I don’t want to force him back into diapers either.

I have a set of Flip Trainers, but they are waaay too big on his little 19lb self and just fall off as he’s walking around. The FuzziBunz Trickle Free Trainers fit him well, but at $16-$20 each that’s just not in my budget right now (but I’m very grateful for the one I won a few months back!).

I’m considering making some from scratch and also converting some pairs of underwear into trainers with a layer of PUL and several layers of flannel in the wet zone. Interestingly, most training pants are too big for him, but his brother’s size 2T underwear actually fit…

I hope this sticks, having him potty trained before even starting another baby would make my life a lot easier! I want to help him as much as I can, but I’m promising myself not to get frustrated if the whole process takes awhile. Of course if he does learn this early then I’m going to have to figure out what to do with my cloth diaper addiction until the next one comes along!

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Jul 192011

I originally started Milk Bubbles blog as a way to get my mommy potty talk off of Facebook where my non-parent friends weren’t so thrilled with hearing a play by play of Aedyn’s successes and failures in the bathroom arena. I stopped a month later, with Aedyn fully potty trained. But here’s the whole story.

Aedyn’s potty training began at 18 months. He’d shown interest starting at around 15 mo along with staying dry through naps and overnight; so I got a potty and let him familiarize himself with it. At 18 months he was eating breakfast one morning, stopped, looked at me and said “Mama, potty! Potty!” I took him and sure enough, he pottied. And he POOPED! On the potty. He told me and then held it long enough to get on the potty! I went out and got underwear and we started. He went into underwear 100%

Until we went on a weekend trip and for my sanity I broke down and bought Pull-Ups. Unlike my worst fears, he didn’t see them as a diaper and he had fewer accidents in them than he did his underwear. it wasn’t the 3 day or week long intensive I thought we’d have. But after about a month he pretty much was down to no accidents. 75% of the time he knew when he needed to go and 25% I would just take him when I felt like it had been awhile.

Then we began a cycle. He’d completely regress. All accidents. The first time he trained it was with only praise. The second we gave marshmallows, it worked for a week. Everything worked for about a week. Then he’d say “No Mamlow”  or whatever we were trying and use the potty if he wanted to or just go where he stood. We tried naked, we tried clothed, we tried filling him up with drinks and taking him every 20 min. We tried EVERYTHING! And it ALL worked…for a week, maybe 2 if we were lucky.

His brother was born during the middle of all of this, but the cycle had begun before Jaron arrived and continued long after. The one thing I hadn’t done was put him back in diapers. I refused. So he was in underwear when we were home and unless it was something like church nursery he was in underwear while we were out too (I was sympathetic to the volunteers and put him in Pull-Ups for them). I was getting fed up.

Finally, I had had enough. We had been playing this game for 8 months. And I call it a game because that’s what it was. He knew what to do. He just didn’t want to. He proved that when he wanted to do it he would. So it became a motivational issue. Aedyn is very strong-willed, he’s not at all bribe-able, never has been about anything. His obedience, compliance and otherwise good naturedness is strictly intrinsically motivated.

He also used it as a weapon. 4 out of 5 times he had an “accident” was right after I sat down to nurse Jaron. Half of the time he would look at me and then deliberately make a puddle right where he stood. One day he asked for a diaper like Jaron. I was so fed up I said fine. (When we started this process he was in disposables, b/c we were w/o a washer and dryer and I hadn’t yet taken the Flats & Handwashing Challenge, now we were back to using cloth and One-Size diapers, so it wasn’t a huge deal to unsnap one to fit.) But in my stubbornness not to lose I told him, if he was going to wear a diaper like a baby, then he was going to be treated like a baby.

Wearing a diaper meant no juice, only milk or water. No candy, no fun snacks, only fruit and/or crackers. No choices on what to wear, he was in a baby diaper. No playing on his tricycle or with his tools, he could only play with baby toys. No playing in his room by himself, he had to stay on the living room rug where I could see him. No TV, and the crown jewel, NO STAR WARS. Yup. And that was what did it. When he used the potty, he got all of his big boy privileges back, when he had an accident, he went back into a diaper and lost everything. It took 3 days for wet accidents to go away and 5 for solids.

In the past 3 months we’ve have maybe 3 or 4 accidents, period. Usually because he can’t get his pants down fast enough, or he ate an entire pint of blueberries and had diarrhea. He takes himself to the bathroom when we’re at home, and tells us when we are out in public so we can take him. He was fully and finally potty trained at 27 months old.

Every child is different. Aedyn proved to us that he was ready and he could do it. Then he changed his mind (this is a recurrent pattern in every area of his life). Just like we have to make him commit to whichever drink he chose in whichever cup, so we’re not dumping juice and dirtying 18 cups a day we needed to make him commit here as well. And he rose to the occasion.

I hope his determination never dims, but I do hope that Jake and I continue to make parenting decisions that help him learn to commit to his choices. Like in this instance, committing and seeing something through will result in more freedom and happiness for all involved.

Potty-training is not the current trend, you see a lot more instances of child-led pottying or potty-learning. What do you think? Were we right in strongly encouraging him? or did we rush it? What did/do/will you do with your little one?

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Jul 062011

I live in a one bathroom house with 3 men. Only one of them is still in diapers.

It’s not an uncommon occurrence in our house for me to see my husband pick up a book and take two steps; at that point I have jumped up and run to the bathroom yelling, “Wait just a sec!” and “Aedyn do you need to go potty?” Because it will be at least 20 – 30 min before the toilet will be free.

It’s better now than it was about 9 months ago though. I was 8 months pregnant, Aedyn was newly potty trained and still very close to the point that when he said “potty” you had half a second to help him, or he was already going. I swore that I would never again live in a one bathroom house.

The fact that this house only had one bathroom was not a big deal for us when we decided to buy it. We were aware that it might be crowded around teethbrushing time, but we knew that we would mostly likely outgrow the place before any girl children would be old enough to hog the mirror.  Neither Jake or I thought about having a newly potty trained toddler who has decided he’s big enough to use the big potty all the time combined with a VERY pregnant woman in addition to general usage.

At that point Aedyn refused to use a little potty chair, he HAD to be on the big potty. That’s still his preference, but now if he sees Papa on the toilet he’ll use the little potty. My lack of pregnancy has also helped manage crowd control a little better as well.

We still have our hang ups, but who doesn’t? I’m sure that with potty training Jaron only about a year away even two bathrooms won’t seem like enough some days, but we will live…my carpet on  the other hand, may not.

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